Glenn R. Schiraldi · first published 2001 · New Harbinger
Your worth isn't earned and can't be lost. It's the starting point. Schiraldi's workbook is daily practice in acting like that's true.
The core idea
Self-esteem, in Schiraldi's definition, is a realistic, appreciative opinion of yourself.
Realistic means you see your flaws as clearly as your strengths. Appreciative means you are glad to be you anyway. It is not arrogance, which needs to feel above other people, and not shame, which feels below them.
Schiraldi, who taught resilience and stress management at the University of Maryland, treats it as a set of skills rather than a mood. He builds it on three blocks, in order. Start with growth and every failure becomes a verdict; start with worth and growth becomes something you can enjoy.
Becoming more of who you can be, for the pleasure of it, not to prove anything.
Caring about yourself and your wellbeing, flaws included. The soil growth needs.
Equal to everyone's, already present, and not changed by what you do or what you have.
Claudia A. Howard's laws, as taught in the workbook
Every person has infinite, internal, eternal and unconditional worth.
Everyone's worth is the same. It is not a contest and not for comparison.
Money, looks, performance and status change your market value, not your worth.
Worth is never in jeopardy, even when someone rejects you.
It doesn't have to be earned or proved. Recognise it, accept it, appreciate it.
Exercise · interactive
Put things that happened to you on the scale and watch what moves. Then take one of the hard ones and turn it into a nevertheless sentence.
Tap anything that's true for you this month, or add your own.
Things that went well
Things that stung
One moves with every chip. One never does.
Infinite, equal to everyone's, not earned and not at risk.
Nothing on the scale yet. Tap a chip on the left.
3Say it plainly, then add nevertheless
Take-home pages
The workbook works by repetition. These put the laws and your own sentences where you'll see them.
Image · PNG
A phone-sized card in riso colours: the five laws, or your nevertheless sentences.
Worksheet · print or PDF
Two pages: a three-column sheet with your entries filled in and blank rows for the week, the distortion key, and the five laws as a cut-out index card.
Calendar · .ics and Text · .txt
A daily ten-minute practice slot for 30 days, and a plain-text copy of the laws and your list for your notes app.
Community insights
The ideas from the workbook that readers vote up most.
Schiraldi's definition has two halves and both matter. Realistic means you see your flaws as clearly as your strengths; appreciative means you are glad to be you anyway. Neither inflating nor shrinking yourself is the goal.
The workbook teaches Claudia Howard's laws of human worth: everyone has the same worth, it does not have to be earned, and it is never in jeopardy. Comparison has nothing to measure. Read the laws aloud when you catch yourself ranking.
Money, looks, status, skills and mistakes change what the world will pay for you or how well things go, and that is real. They do not add to or take away from the core of who you are. Keep the two ledgers separate.
The three building blocks run in order. Growth that starts without a sense of worth turns into proving yourself, and every failure becomes a verdict. Start with worth, add love, and growth becomes something you can enjoy.
"I lost my temper today; nevertheless, I am a worthwhile person." The flaw is acknowledged, not argued away, and it is kept from becoming a judgement of the whole person. Practise it out loud until it comes on its own.
All-or-nothing thinking, labelling, overgeneralising, discounting the positive: they show up again and again. Learn their names, catch one a day, and write a fairer sentence in its place.
Arrogance and narcissism compare and compete because they are not secure. Real self-esteem is quiet; it has nothing to prove and no need to put anyone else down. Humility and self-respect sit together.
Once worth is settled, growing is about becoming more of who you can be, for the pleasure of it. Choose one small way to grow this week, and let falling short be information rather than evidence against you.
Action steps
The first exercises take an evening. The practices are what change how you talk to yourself.
Write the five laws of human worth on an index card and keep it where you will read it every morning for a week.
Write down ten qualities you have, even in small measure, with one recent example of each. Small and specific counts.
Write three flaws or mistakes that bother you, and finish each with "nevertheless, I am a worthwhile person".
Make a two-column sheet: the harsh thought on the left, the distortion's name and a fairer sentence on the right. Keep it near your journal.
Choose a regular ten to twenty-minute slot for the workbook's exercises, and put it in your calendar as a repeating event.
When you notice a mistake or a flaw, say it plainly, add "nevertheless", and finish the sentence about your worth.
Each evening, note three things you did, enjoyed, or appreciated about yourself today.
Once a week, take five minutes to notice what your body did for you, and do one thing that cares for it.
You are not a project that has to be finished before it counts. You count now, and you keep growing anyway.HourLife note after Glenn R. Schiraldi Back to the library
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Glenn Schiraldi, who has taught stress management and resilience at the University of Maryland, treats self-esteem as a set of skills to practise rather than a feeling to wait for. He builds it on three blocks, unconditional human worth, unconditional love, and growth, and argues that worth is a given, not something earned by performance, looks or approval. The workbook turns that into short daily exercises for...
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