Communication · a life skill
Deliberate Audience Awareness
name it, then show it
Every team, family and hobby runs on names: the tracker, stand-up, the back road, belay. To you each one points at something. To someone new it's a sound. The deliberate habit is to list the names before you brief someone, and give each new one a plain description beside it until it's theirs too.
- Moderate
- High impact
- Learn it: 2-4 weeks
- Name + description
An illustration. The pattern behind it: with someone new, experts more often pair a name with a description (Isaacs & Clark, 1987).
The habit
Try it now.
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List the names they'll hear
Before a briefing, write down the tools, places, people and shorthand you're about to use. Acronyms count.
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Mark each one
Knows it, not sure, or new to them. If you can't tell, it's “not sure”.
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Say the name, then what it is
“The tracker, the shared sheet with a row per order.” For a name that's brand new, lead with the description and add the name after it.
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Drop the description once they use the name
When they say “the tracker” back to you, it's shared. From then on the name alone does the work.
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Keep a “which one?” list
Every “the what?” is a name you missed. Add it to the list for the next person you brief.
List, mark, name and show, listen, add.
Example: a friend is coming to their first climbing session. “You'll belay me” means nothing yet. “You'll hold the rope for me from the ground. That's called belaying” gives them the job now and the word for next week.
Brief them
Write the first mention of every name.
Add the names you're about to use, a plain description of each, and how well this person knows it. The note on the right writes how to say each one the first time, and flags descriptions that won't help: missing, longer than 15 words, or using the name to explain itself.
Start from an example
The briefing
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The research behind it
With someone new, experts added the picture.
Ellen Isaacs and Herbert Clark had pairs of people arrange a set of postcards of New York landmarks, one person telling the other which card went where. Some of them knew New York well and some didn't.
When an expert was talking to someone who didn't know the city, they more often gave a landmark's name and a description of the card together, rather than the name alone. With another New Yorker, the name could do the work by itself. Later researchers call the move a “name plus description”.
Each half does a different job. The description gets them to the right card now. The name gives you both a short word for next time, which is why the description can drop away once they use it.
The idea
Why it works.
A shared name is the cheapest way to point at something, but only once it's shared. Until then it's a sound, and you'll hear it in the pause before “sorry, which one?”. The description does the pointing while the name is new.
Saying both costs a few words, once. It saves the other person from guessing, and it saves you from switching to plain words for good, which makes every later conversation longer. A few mentions later the name carries the meaning on its own, and you're talking the way you'd talk to anyone on the team.
When it goes wrong
Habits that help.
- Don't quiz them. “Do you know what the tracker is?” can feel like a test. Add the description and carry on.
- Describe what they'll see or do. “The bottom row, in euros” beats “the line for foreign exchange”.
- Listen for the echo. The first time they use the name back is the signal to drop the description.
- Watch the names you use most. The words you say every day are the ones you've stopped hearing as names.
Go deeper
Keep going.
- Simple Audience Awareness
- Deliberate Audience Awareness
- Advanced Audience Awareness
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