Problems

I'm afraid to look at my finances.

Afraid to look at finances

Financial avoidance is often a nervous-system problem before it is a spreadsheet problem. Make the first look short, kind, and bounded so the numbers become information again.

Start with day 1 See recommendations

Time to start

5 minutes

First step

Set a timer

Do this first

Open one account for five minutes and stop when the timer ends.

Choose what to do next

Start here

Printable

Weekly Planner

Make the next five-minute check-in scheduled and bounded.

Reading shortlist

Best books for this problem

Get Good with Money

Offers a practical and encouraging way back into the numbers.

Money: A User's Guide

Shows how simple systems reduce repeated money stress.

One week of action

7-day action sequence

  1. 1

    Set a timer

    Open one account for five minutes and stop when the timer ends.

  2. 2

    Write only facts

    Record balances and due dates without making a plan yet.

  3. 3

    Choose one next bill

    Identify the next bill or payment that needs action.

  4. 4

    Add one support

    Do the money check-in with tea, music, a calm place, or a trusted person nearby.

  5. 5

    Make one tiny move

    Pay, schedule, cancel, or bookmark one financial item.

  6. 6

    Create a repeat cue

    Pick the same five-minute window for your next money check.

  7. 7

    Notice the difference

    Write what was less scary after looking and what still needs care.

Keep going

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