Love & Relationships

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01

Harriet Lerner · 1985

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

Anger becomes useful when it teaches you where the self has disappeared.

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Katherine Woodward Thomas

Calling in "The One"

The love you are calling in has to recognize the home you have already become.

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Emily Nagoski · 2015

Come as You Are

Pleasure begins where shame loses authority and the body is allowed to tell the truth.

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John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman · 2019

Eight Dates

Love stays alive when two people keep making room to be surprised by each other.

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Dolly Alderton · 2018

Everything I Know About Love

Nearly everything I know about love, I’ve learnt from my long-term friendships with women.

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Eve Rodsky · 2019

Fair Play

Fairness is not helping more. It is building a home where responsibility has a visible address.

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Kevin Leman

Have a New Sex Life by Friday

A new sex life by Friday begins when the everyday climate becomes safe, warm, and worth coming home to.

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Ian Kerner

He Comes Next

Pleasure becomes intimate when it stops being a performance and starts becoming a practice of attention.

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Sue Johnson

Hold Me Tight

Love becomes secure when the frightened places in us can reach and find someone reaching back.

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Lane Moore

How to Be Alone

Aloneness becomes survivable when you stop treating your own company as a consolation prize.

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Todd Baratz

How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind

The goal is not to be unbothered by love. The goal is to stay in relationship with yourself while you love someone else.

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Stephen Snyder

Love Worth Making

Desire returns when sex stops being a referendum and starts becoming a place where two people feel free, chosen, and alive.

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Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity

Desire survives not because we know everything about the person we love, but because we keep meeting the parts that remain free.

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John Gray · 1992

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Love improves when curiosity arrives before judgment.

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Aziz Ansari, Eric Klinenberg

Modern Romance

Modern romance asks for an old-fashioned skill: choosing one real person while the whole world keeps offering alternatives.

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Gary John Bishop

Love Unfu*ked

Love gets unfu*ked when honesty becomes more important than keeping the beautiful lie alive.

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Patrick J. Carnes

Out of the Shadows

Recovery begins when secrecy loses its job and reality becomes safe enough to tell the truth.

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Christopher Ryan, Cacilda Jethá

Sex at Dawn

The more honestly we study desire, the less useful shame becomes as a relationship strategy.

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Vanessa Marin, Xander Marin

Sex Talks

The most erotic sentence in a long relationship may be: I want to understand what this is like for you.

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Ian Kerner

She Comes First

Pleasure becomes generous when attention stops performing expertise and starts practicing care.

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John Kim

Single On Purpose

Single is not the absence of love. It is the place where love stops being a rescue fantasy and becomes a daily practice.

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bell hooks · 1999

All About Love

Love is an action, never simply a feeling.

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Gary Chapman

The 5 Love Languages

Love becomes practical when we stop asking whether we meant it and start asking whether it landed.

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Laura Corn

101 Nights of Great Sex

Desire is not found by waiting for the mood. It is invited by the care you put into the moment before it begins.

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Robert Waldinger, Marc Schulz · 2023

The Good Life

The good life is not a destination. It is the repeated practice of turning toward the people who make life worth living.

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Brené Brown · 2012

The Power of Vulnerability

Courage is the willingness to be seen before the outcome is guaranteed.

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Jay Shetty

8 Rules of Love

Love is not proven by intensity. It is proven by the care you practice when intensity fades.

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John M. Gottman, Nan Silver · 1999

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Happy marriages are based on a deep friendship.

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Greg Behrendt · 2004

He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

Clarity is kinder than auditioning for someone who keeps missing the show.

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Logan Ury · 2021

How to Not Die Alone

Love is not found by perfect filtering; it is built by better noticing, choosing, and repairing.

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David Richo · 2002

How to Be an Adult in Relationships

Mature love is less about control and more about the quality of presence you bring.

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Sherry Argov · 2002

Why Men Love Bitches

Warmth works better when it is not purchased by self-abandonment.

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Mary Roach

Bonk

Curiosity is the antidote to shame, especially when the subject is the body we were taught to whisper about.

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Miguel Ruiz · 1999

The Mastery of Love

Love is not a bargain for safety; it is a clean way of being.

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David Deida · 1997

The Way of the Superior Man

Purpose without presence becomes performance; presence without purpose becomes drift.

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Natasha Lunn · 2021

Conversations on Love

Love deepens when people keep asking questions that make the hidden life speakable.

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Marianne Williamson · 1992

A Return to Love

A return to love is a return to perception that makes dignity and repair possible.

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Steve Harvey · 2009

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

Clarity is kinder than guessing when your dignity is at stake.

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Harville Hendrix · 1988

Getting the Love You Want

Repair begins when being right becomes less urgent than being accurately heard.

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Mark Manson · 2011

Models

The cleanest signal is the truth offered without a demand.